Monday, August 31, 2009


Today was my first day of wedding related activities! My mom, sister and I went to the location I was hoping to get married at. I worked there years ago, and my first time there I knew I had to get married there one day. However, it has always been a pretty pricey place, so I always figured it just woudln't happen. The other day I checked out their website and they were offering a discount on weddings in January. Great, so January it was. However, they also have head count minimums based on what day of the week it is, and because we are having such a small wedding I decided to get married on a Thursday night. So then when we went in today to talk to them, because they are doing construction on another area of the property, they are not only offering a discount but they have done away with minimums. So, I can get married on a Saturday night for a discounted price..and in the room I want! So, January 30, 2010 I will be getting married at a local winery! I am so excited.

If that wasn't enough to make my day, after going to the winery we decided to go to a local bridal salon. They were having a big sale, 50% off select gowns, and the sale ended today. I am always up for a good bargain, so I figured we had to at least check it out. There were only about 30 dresses that were for sale, however, it was my lucky day because I found my dress!!! I got my dress for less than $500 including tax! I was THRILLED!

I hope all wedding planning goes this easily! Next up is putting down the deposit and securing my date. And then sending out save-the-dates! The crafting has already begun. And since my sister and I are yet again doing all the centerpieces, I need to start figuring out what I want. Ahhhh..I cannot believe this is real!

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Is This Real?

Tonight, was the best night ever. I am now, ENGAGED! Ahhhhhhhh... Travis had me totally fooled. I really didn't think it was happening tonight. Infact, I started crying in the car on the way home from dinner because I was sure that it wasn't going to happen tonight. But then I we got home, and pulling into the drive way I noticed my sister's car a few houses up the street. Then we walked in the house, and the lights were off, so that couldn't have been my sisters car. I looked out in the backyard, and at first glance I noticed a lot of light, but thought it was the outdoor lights. I quickly realized they were candles, and then I KNEW! I started laughing and smiling from ear to ear. T asked me to come with him and he lead me outside. There were candles and rose's EVERYWHERE. He started to tell me how much he loved me, and a bunch of stuff I don't remember. In the middle of all that I realized my sister was hiding (not very well) on my parents balcony, taking pictures and then talking to us in the middle of the proposal. Then the sprinklers went off and I got sprayed. But in the end T asked me to be his wife and spend my life with him. And of course I said YES!

I am so thrilled! Words cannot describe my excitement! It was the perfect proposal fo us! Sprinklers and all! I am on cloud 9 right now. Poor T is just so overwhelmed, he said he hasn't slept all week. He was so figiddty at dinner, and I asked him if he took his ADD med's and he said no, so I figured that was why! Guess not, it was nerves.

If it all works out, the offical wedding date is January 28, 2010. I am hoping to go to the venue this weekend and put down a deposit! AHHHHH!!!!! This leaves me 5 months from tomorrow! I cannot wait to spend my life with T. He is so amazing and I am so thankful to have him in my life. God really did bless me when he brought T into my life. He is the perfect balance to my nuttiness! He is the one person who can calm me down, and make me slow down.

Stay tuned to all the wedding details! I will be posting much more now! We already have quite a bit figured out. We are having a very small wedding, only family in Jan. But we will be having a big party to celebrate with everyone sometime in May. So, basically I get to plan 2 weddings, which makes me even happier!

I am so luck and so blessed! This has been the best night ever. I love you so much T.

P.S. I hope to have pictures from my sister soon!

Saturday, August 22, 2009

That's Right, I'm Selfish

Have you ever kept something a secret so nobody else you know could use it? Or is that just me? It could be something as simple as a design idea, a great deal, a name. There are all sorts of things. For example, a friend of mine and I were discussing baby names one night. There is a name I just love for a little girl. But before I could get it out she said the name she loves. What do you know, it is a variation of the same name! Another good friend of mine and her friend were discussing baby names also. When my friend mentioned "her name" the other party said that was a great name. Several months later the friends-friend was prego and was talking about using the name!! Maybe it is silly to some people, but not to me!

I recently found a baby bedding set i L.O.V.E., and I hate baby bedding sets. I always swore I would just piece together what I needed. However, after seeing this, I somehow justified the ridiculous amount of money that it costs and purchasing pieces of bedding that are not even necessary. Now keep in mind I am not pregnant, and several of my friends will probably be announcing their pregnancies far before mine. For that reason, I am being selfish and not sharing this bedding. Not that my taste is simply amazing, but it is a fairly popular design motif right now. And I simply do not want anyone else having it!! I want it to be mine, all mine. I already have the whole room planned around it. It is that perfect. So, does that make me selfish? Please tell me I am not the only person who does this!

Sunday, August 16, 2009

Why Online Classes Suck

I am trying to finish my degree, and about 2 years ago I decided University of Phoenix Online was the way to go. I was able to go to school at 2 am when I was wide awake, and that seems to work for me.Classes are only 5 weeks long, which is just enough time for me to lose interest before it is over! Yes, I am paying roughly 400x's what I should in tuition, but that is the sacrifice I made.

However, there was one thing I was not prepared for....GROUP ASSIGNMENTS. Every single class you take you are broken into groups and have group projects throughout the class. To start with, I don't like other people that much, especially when my grade depends on them. I have not really had any problems with team members until the last 2 classes. The first psycho thought she was the ONLY person who could do any work, so she said she would do ALL of the work, and then just let us (the rest of the team) proof read what she wrote. Um, as lovely as that sounds, I am fairly certain the professor isn't going to go for that come time for grading. Secondly, I can do my part of the assignment, thank you very much. Now in my current class my "group leader" has a tendency to write paragraphs with zero or one period. The whole paragraph makes NO sense because everything is written improperly or completely misspelt. And yet, I am supposed to go to her for guidance on my assignment...I think NOT. I hate that I have to depend on other people for a part of my grade. HATE, HATE, HATE it. Yes, I know I will have to work in a group setting for the rest of my life, however that group setting won't determine what GPA I have when I graduate. If I could do it all over again, I would go to a Cal State and save myself the thousands I am paying in tuition. So take it from me, while online classes may save you time, they don't save you a headache and thoughts of throwing your laptop out the window.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Another Open Letter

I am a waitress at a popular chain restaurant. And quite frankly, I am at my whit's end. So, this is my chance to say what I think/feel about my guests.

Dear *Guests*,
To start with, I don't know that all of your deserve to be called guests. Most of you should be referred to as Jerks, (I'm trying to clean up my potty mouth)and that is being kind. To start with, it is no longer 1983; a 10% tip doesn't cut it any longer. Do you realize that I have to pay tax on the tips you are supposed to give me, even if you don't leave me a single dollar? If you don't have the money to go out to eat and give your server a great tip, don't go out to dinner. Stay at home, and then you can have exactly what you want, how you want it, and you don't have to stiff someone at their job.

I understand that not every server will give you the best service, however more often than not YOUR first reaction to us is what puts us in a bad mood. If I greet your table and before I can say hello you are ordering me to go get you a drink, don't be surprised when I am giving you less than stellar service. I also am not sure when it became okay to snap at me, yell "hey lady" across the restaurant, or throw some object to get my attention, but news flash IT IS NOT OKAY. If I went into your job and started yelling at you or throwing objects at you, most likely I would be escorted out in handcuffs by the police. So, why do you feel it is okay to do that at my job? I am not here to be your bitch or your slave. You can ask nicely for something, do not demand it. Another tip that might help out, if you know you want something (ranch, steak sauce, extra whatever) with your meal, ask for it when you order. It's not that hard to do. You seem to have no problem asking for things one item at a time, forcing me to spend extra time running around.I know I could use a few pounds, however I don't need you to be my personal trainer by sending me all around for things you need. Now take this into consideration, have you ever wondered where your server is when you need something? They are probably running around getting the table next to you 400 things they could have asked for when they ordered, but thought it would be fun to watch me run around and have no time to devote to your table.

I cannot speak for everyone, however, I DO MY JOB. I am not just ignoring you for fun. One more news flash, you are not my only table. I have several others to deal with. So when you need something, and so do my 5 other tables, learn to be patient. I don't have Go-Go-Gadget arms, and I can only do so much. I would love to see you deal with 20 people at the same time.

Like I mentioned earlier, tipping is a huge problem. If you cannot afford to go out to eat and leave a tip, don't go out to eat. If you are dropping your teenagers off for dinner with their friends, educate them on tipping. $3 on a $52 check is not okay. I have a good feeling in just a few short years, your kids will be serving tables, do you want them being treated the same way they treat me? I hope not. If you decide to meet up with your long lost friend and sit in my section, congrats on seeing that person! However, sitting at the same table for 3 hours chatting and then only leaving a $5 tip is unacceptable. In the 3 hours you sat there, I could have turned that table at least twice, and made more money. If you want to sit and chat for hours, either add $5 for each hour you sit there, or go to Starbucks..that is why it was created! And to the parents of wild and crazy children, listen, I LOVE kids. I really do. But listening to your child scream at the top of their lungs for 15 minutes (yes, this has happened) is really unpleasant. Take your child to the bathroom or outside. Quite frankly, not only I am now deaf, but I am embarrassed for you. Be a parent and DO SOMETHING. And when your child decides to throw every piece of food on the table on the floor, you have no idea how nice it is to offer to clean it up.I have a feeling your child doesn't get away with that at home. So, why is it okay when you are out in public? I have NEVER let anyone clean up their child's mess, but to the people who offer to clean it up, I am so grateful to you. Thank you. Simply offering makes my day.

Thank you to the few people who understand how crappy being a waitress is, and make my life no quite so horrible. To the rest of you who seem to think you can boss me around, be rude to me, tell me off, and get in my face, don't worry, you've got it coming to you. I am sorry your life is so horrible that you think it is okay to take it out on me. Why don't you try being a server, and let's see how you do. Something tells me you won't be making too much money.

Monday, August 3, 2009

Pity Party for 1 Please

**Warning: I understand I that my life is not that difficult, however I am having a pity party, and this is my blog, so I can! And this is going to be a long post** This past year has been a very difficult one for me. In the past year my Grandfather who I was very, very close to past away. I knew it was coming, but it was still very difficult for me. I moved back home with Mom & Dad after 3 years of living on my own. It wasn't my ideal situation, but it was what needed to happen based on my financial situation. My mom and I don't seem to get along too well when we live together. And in all honesty, I never though that I would still be here a year later. My cousin who is a year older than me got engaged. The family knew it was coming, but it was still hard for me to deal with. Then in October my little sister got engaged. This rocked my world. I was so happy for my sister, but never did I think she would be getting married before me. And while Travis and I have talked about marriage for quite a long time now, it seemed as though she talked about it for a week and next thing I knew they were engaged. Then 5 months later my little sister was a married woman. The days after she had moved out were very hard for me. I am the big sister, I was supposed to be the one who was married and living with my husband, not still living at home with mom and dad. This is something I still struggle with. On top of all of this the past year has presented me with a new gift; major anxiety. It sucks. I hate every single minute of it. As I said in a previous post, I am seeing a therapist and working on dealing with and controlling my anxiety, but the past year it has just been overwhelming at times. Then to round it all out, several of my dear friends have become engaged, bought houses, welcomed babies, moved, and gotten new jobs or promotions. And here I am; unmarried, living at home, working at a job I loathe, nowhere near buying a home or having kids or moving. I am not one step closer to any of my goals. I am so thrilled for all of my friends and family for the blessings in their lives that God has given them. Yet at the same time I am so jealous. (It is so bad, I know this)

I don't even know how to end this blog entry. I'm just having a pity party tonight and needed to get all of this off my chest. I am so unbelievably happy for my family and friends. I am just so ready for it to be my turn. I have an amazing boyfriend who one day is going to make an amazing husband and father...and I am ready for that day to be today..or tomorrow. When is it going to be my turn?
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